Starting Over

-5 Ways to Start over-

A lot of times, we fall short when we’re trying to complete our goals. But this doesn’t mean that it’s the end. Having to do a re-do is not a failure, it’s a new opportunity to makes things right, whatever the project or goal(s) may be, there’s never a reason to completely quit. Here are 5 ways to start over.

1. Accept losses/Failures

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We all know that it sucks to loose or come up short, whether in a sporting event, competition or just trying to accomplish something worth fighting for, if the objective is not meant then its a loss but, believe it or not, there’s always a silver lining in loosing or failing. For some people they learn from their mistakes, which is an extremely important tool when achieving success. When we look back and analyze how and in what areas we failed short, we can take notes and try different things so the same mistakes won’t happen again. Thomas Edison failed at inventing the light bulb 1,000 times, yet he still didn’t give up. Mr. Edison, accepted all of those failures and losses and kept chasing his goal, how many of us would even attempt 50 tries to accomplish something, let alone 1,000.

2. Let go of the old

Letting go of what was is part of starting over. For a lot of us it can be one of the most difficult decisions we can make. But why do we often dwell in the past? why is so hard to let it go? For many of us it’s hard to let go of the past because of

  • Emotional Trauma
  • A Bad experience
  • The inability to accept
  • Fear/Judgement
  • Comfort

There are times, some may require therapy to help deal with these reasons, but unfortunately we can’t change the past, everything in life is constantly moving forward, the way the world works it requires us to move on. Whether good or bad we can’t keep holding on to old events this can really delay growth in our lives and it can also ruin our future. Someone, once said that if he can go back at least 6 or 7 years into the past he would change so many things, this man isn’t too happy with how his life is now and he thinks that if he went back and perhaps try a little harder in school that he would have a much better job than he does now, he also thinks that he would undo an abundance amount of mistakes. This man used to think in a very unhealthy way about his current life not knowing his best moments are ahead of him; that man was me. I mean sure, tomorrow isn’t a sure thing but what if it is, each day that we wake up is another opportunity to start over, to forget all about yesterday and focus on the present. I recently had that realization myself, it can be done it’s going to take a lot of hard work and just a little faith, because sometimes that’s just the amount you need.

3. New PLan

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Im sure we’ve all heard the expression “back to the old drawing board” before. There’s nothing wrong with coming up with new projects if our old ones didn’t work out. Sometimes, what we thought was the perfect idea or plan wasn’t the one for us and that’s ok. The same concept works for picking out a major, studies shows at least 80% of college students switch there major through out their college education. That’s a pretty big number, and not to say that there’s anything wrong with changing majors, but then again it does prolong the process, but the point is that its ok to go back and start over if plans or ideas don’t work out at first. Usually, this is the time of year when people start over, the start of the new year is the time when gyms get flooded with new members with new years resolution promises, many people also have a re-do when they experience a divorce in a marriage.

4. Make a Schedule

With some much going one in our lives, we can get easily sidetracked if we’re trying to accomplish a goal. Making a schedule can relieve some stress and put things in order. How many of us would make promises to our spouse or friends but we’d end breaking them because we wouldn’t remember them . Don’t worry it’s part of the imperfect package as a human, we’re naturally forgetful creatures. But scheduling our days in advance definitely helps, it also make time management more stable. Scheduling, is also helpful with procrastination. Some scientist came to the conclusion that, having a daily routine brings some people happiness. It’s very important that scheduling becomes a habit in our lives especially when starting over.

5. Cut ties with some people

It’s never ok to just completely shut someone off but, there are individuals that we should without a doubt to at least consider removing out of our lives. If your hanging around people who are not as goal oriented as yourself then it’s best to leave because there’s a strong chance that those individuals will bring you down with them. Examine your circle(without judging) what are your friends doing with their lives, how do they spend their weekends and nights, what substances do they put in their bodies? there are plenty more but, these are just the few things we should consider when we want to change our lives for the better. One of the most overlooked bible verse in 1 Corinthians 15:33 says “Don’t be deceived, bad company corrupts good character”. One version straight up says, “Bad friends will ruin good habits” if that’s not a crimson red flag then I don’t know what is. These are some of the things we should consider when we want to start over in our lives. IT’S NEVER TO LATE


-Achieving your Goals-

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3 Ways to Achieve your Goals

Let’s be honest, if somebody would’ve ask you where do you see yourself 6 months to a year from now would you have a definite answer? What about if you were ask where do you see yourself 5 to 10 years from now? scary right? The truth is many of us don’t have a clue what the future may bring. In fact, their might even be a tomorrow but just in case there is, just in case you get up the next morning are alive and well it’s important to set goals. And here are 3 ways to successfully achieve them.

  1. Know what you want

When you set goals for yourself it gives you a clear idea of what you want and how to achieve it. Sometimes just making a decision can be one of the toughest things to do in life, what college to go to? what career should I pursue? should I marry this one? When we don’t know what we want we just go circles and never see any changes in our lives. But when you know what you want….you

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  • Have a greater chance of suceeding
  • Your vision is clear
  • Its Easier to focus on one thing at a time
  • You know what to do when you face obstacles

2. Self Motivation

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When you know exactly what you fighting for, you should be even more willing to achieve it. For example if you’re goal is to loose 40 pounds in 4 moths, keep yourself motivated on achieving that goal by focusing on seeing those results. Envision yourself 40 pounds lighter, it helps to see your goals as already been accomplished.

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3. Discipline

This is the one of if not the most important factors for achieving –ANYTHING

Anybody that’s ever achieved any form of success have one thing in common, discipline. Its the only way to get to the next level, It takes mental toughness and strong will power to deny the things that brings us pleasure and temporary gratification, not saying those things are bad but, who wants to feel comfortable all the time? Where’s the challenge? The growth? The blood sweat and tears? Body builders don’t get where they are by seating on the couch all day. Companies don’t just conjure up from thin air and champions aren’t born they are made Through discipline. Comfort is a killer of dreams.

We must either suffer the pain of dicipline or the pain of regret” -Jim Rohn

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I hated every minute of training, but I said don’t quit, suffer now and live the rest of your lief as a champion” -Muhammad Ali

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Never be late to anything

How many of us have been late more times then we can count? Lets take a moment…OK so after 3 hours of self reflecting we realize that punctuality is not one of hour strong suits. But why is it so important to get in the habit of being on time for EVERYTHING? There’s a number of reasons why but let’s tackle some of the more basic one for example…

Professionalism -(Work)

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Being on time for work automatically stands you out as more reliable and trustworthy than some of your co-workers who not always on time. Managers are going to notice that you are an employee that takes his job seriously and wants to advance in a company.

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You Care

Even if it’s your neighbor’s 3 year old’s birthday party, the fact that you arrived not a minute to soon shows that you value their time and the importance of the event that’s being hosted.

Always be prepared- If you’re on time then you’re always ready to go. Nothing can ever catch you by surprise, not even a test because you actually arrive on time and are ready to knock it out because you know you studied.

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It becomes a habit– It’s often said that practice makes perfect, call it crazy but the same can also be said about repeating a habit. Of course, it has to be a productive habit, something that’s going to benefit you. The rule of 21/90 states to commit to a personal or professional goal for 21 days straight. Once you’ve established that habit, you continue to do it for another 90 days. Sound’s easier said than done right? Let’s start a little smaller, how about we commit to not being late to anything for 1 week seven whole days and then go from there.

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Is God really interested?

ok, so God is real, He is all powerful and high and mighty, He is the creator of the Universe and everything in it, why would He even care about me and what I do or how I do it?

This is what a lot of people think about God, we often think that our beloved Creator literally has millions of other things He’d rather be doing than to care about our everyday lives. It’s also, one of many reasons why those same people won’t even attempt to get to know Him. The truth is God cares about every thing we do to the last detail. Unlike us, God doesn’t require sleep nor does He needs to eat; He never get’s tired or weak He is awake 24/7, watching constantly this means that God’s main priority, is us all the time. Yet, how can some people say that He doesn’t care about them? Let’s go back to line three, “people won’t even attempt to get to know Him”, Sure, God can intervine in our lives whenever he chooses but the Lord will only work in our lives if we invite to, if we let him in (Rev 3:20). Our God is a gentleman, He is classy He doens’t just barge into our lives and demand to be worshipped, He wants us to willingly open our hearts to His goodness. Sometimes, it can feel like the Lord is distant, but the truth is we’re the ones that are too far to hear or even acknowlege him in our lives.


I was having a conversation with my dad one time and he paused and asked me why do you overthink so much? I quickly answered I dont overthink and, at that moment I started to realize that he wasn’t the first person to say that to me. I’ve had co-workers that told that I overthink things even some friends, In fact some people upon meeting them for the first time would tell me that they can tell I tend to overthink. Does this happen to you? If it does it means your human and your not alone, it happens to everyone, we all at some point of our lives are going to overthink but when it’s gotten to the point that we can’t even make easy decisions? then something needs to change.

Here’s 5 simple ways not to overthink.

  1. Journal it
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Writing our thoughts down eases with stress and anxiety, sometimes there can be so much going on in heads that we can barely hear ourselves think. But writing things helps with clarity and decision making, its as if your cleaning your room but your head would be the room and your thoughts are the mess.

2. Plan Ahead

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Why overthink if your already prepared? Procrastination is a recipe for disaster. If you know your supposed to get something done then work on that task. But it is easier said than done because according to recent data found on psychologytoday.com 20 to 25 percent of adult Americans procrastinate and according to Eudotopia.con 80 to 95 percent of college students procrastinate. If we can plan ahead and properly and, take action maybe we wouldn’t overthink so much about especially when it comes to due dates.

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3. We can’t control everything

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In life things happend, no one can control the weather it has a mind of its own. You can be healthy as a horse today and tomorrow out of nowhere you find yourself on a hospital bed with something you didn’t even know you had, our lives didn’t come with a manual (although it’d be incredible useful if it did) we are capable of doing amazing things but can’t do everything especially on our own. Its ok to need help, and its ok that you cant handle everything on your own.

4. Perfectionism

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You can’t call yourself a human if you’ve never made a mistake, there just a part of life. Now, wanting to do everything without any errors is a good thing it shows you take your work seriously but, expecting zero errors every time is just impossible. If you feel as though you always have more you need to do that just means there’s more to think about which leads to overthinking. In fact, there was a study done on everydayhealth.com that shows that perfectionism can lead to depression. Trying to be perfect will only leaves us mentally, emotionally and physically exhausted.

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5. Give yourself a break

Take it easy and relax, we need to give our brains a break to refresh, go out with your friends, spend time with your family go on vacation treat your self.

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Sometimes we just need to get away from all of the stress and overthinking.

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We were not born to stress out and overthink, there more to life then that. Don’t be afraid to fail, take a leap of faith and sometimes as hard as this may sound we just have to let some things be because we can’t control them but, that doesn’t it’s the end of a situation, things can and will change for the better. The next time your overthink remember to,

  • Journal it
  • Plan ahead
  • We can’t controll everything
  • No need for Perfection
  • Give yourself and break

-God to you-

Who is God to you? Everyone has their own definition of God, some good and others based on their own understanding not so good. Webster-dictionary defines the noun G-O-D as a perfect being that is worshipped and the one who created and rules the universe. But if someone would’ve have asked you out of the blue who is God to you what would your answer be?

The best definition of who God is? is in the Bible and though it describes Him in many different ways but the most accurate and straight foward one is in (1 John 4:16) God is Love. But let’s dissect that “L” word a little, the word Love has been overused so much that sometimes we forget what it means. People do it all the time, for example I love this movie, or I love these new sneakers, or what about I love the weather today and let’s not forget the most controversial one of all “I love you“. How many times have you or someone you know said this powerful phrase to someone else or vice versa. How would you show someone that you love him/her? Its more than just saying the phrase our actions have to prove our love. God has proven His love for you and I every day that we wake up. No one says that we are guaranteed to get up when we close our eyes, God makes it clear in (Proverbs 27:1) “Do not boast about tomorrow, for you do not know what a day may bring forth, basically saying there’s no such thing as tomorrow. When we seat down and eat is also proven love from our beloved Creator, and the list goes on and on from as simple as breathing to being near death on a hospital bed from an inoperable sickness and all of a sudden the disease has disappeared and you’re on the road to recovery there’s no limit to God’s love in fact this His infinite goodness is shown in (John 3:16) ” For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” Can you imagine being a parent and you have only one kid, just one and you tell your son/daughter to go die for a whole bunch of people that dont know who you are so that maybe one day they will know us because we love them, and yes the Son of God has risen on the third day and He seats at His Father’s right side but still that’s nuts right? That is the Love of God, that is who He is. We are not meant to understand but to believe.

-Wake Up Early 5 Reasons To Do It-

“Don’t Hit Snooze just Yet

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How many people do you know that actually enjoy the idea of getting out of bed before the sun rises? -I know, not that many right- Some of you are probably wondering (Besides work or school) “why in the world would I get up early”? Our beds and that deep sleep feel so good that the idea of cutting it short brings disgust and discomfort to us, especially if we’re having a pleasant dream. But waking up exactly or before the crack of dawn has its share of benefits as well….

  1. Exercise

Early morning workouts are one of the best ways to start your day, it gives you that extra boost of energy to handle any situation that’s ahead of your day. Exercise in the morning also helps us sleep better at night, previous studies from the National Sleep Foundation proved that daily early morning workout routines has treated insomnia.

2. Breakfast.

Was once called “The most important meal of the day” the meal that adds fuel to your engine yet a lot of us skip breakfast every day. Waking up early means you have more time in your hands, some of that extra time can be used to have a healthy breakfast, A 2011 survey shows that 31 million Americans skipped breakfast every single day and that number has been rising over the last decade. Without a healthy breakfast we’re left sluggish, foggy and low energy which is one of the reasons why a lot of people especially those that work are drinking 2-3 cups of coffe a day.

3. Ahead on Work

The early bird gets the worm” The earlier you get up and the more time you have on your hands the more you’ll get done. If you get into the habit of waking up before the sun rises, you can use that time to be productive and get a early start on your work. This would make you a better employee, business owner, and entrepreneur. Many choose early mornings to work on other projects such as…

  • Side Hustles
  • Small businesses
  • Start ups
  • Freenlance work


We can get overwhelmed at times with our hectic shedules, that’s why it’s best to plan your day and one of the best ways to do that is when you’re up before everybody else. It’s helped to know where your day is going so there wouldn’t be much confusion.



This is the best time to really do some soul searching. Many people choose early mornings to engage in activities such as reading and writing. Other’s choose this time to get closer to God. In fact, it’s even said in the Bible that Jesus would seek God early in the morning while his disciples were still sleeping and there many verses indicating that it’s best to seek the Lord early in the morning while it’s still peaceful and quite for example “Psalm 63:1-5  O God, You are my God early will I seek You my soul thirsts for You,  my flesh faints for You, in a dry and thirsty land with no water.” the Pslamist David did 2 things here, he regonized that there is a living God and he made a declaration that he would seek and get to know him when? “EARLY“.

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Picking up Good Habits

Its no secret that habits have a huge impact in our lives, in some cases they even defy who we are. There are good habits, the ones that help us ,mold us and shape us and of course the bad ones that get us no where and just have us wondering what if I did this instead of that? or what if I didn’t say this but instead I said that. Habit building takes time and effort which sounds boring and dreadful but it’s not impossible. Here are 5 ways to pick up good habits.

1. Start Small

There’s no need to go all out at first, something as simple as making you bed each morning can have a positive impact on your day, the feeling of accomplishing that first task of the day will motivate you to make better choices. It’s also helps with managing stress levels. Seeing a perfectly made bed helps us clear our heads, it makes planning a little easier. It’s said that “The state of your bed is the state of your head” pretty much self explanatory.

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2. Be Consistent

This is where will power comes into play, the first few days might of been a little easy but what about the rest of the week? It’s important to regularly keep up with a routine even when you don’t want to. Especially if it’s to improve your life style, there are many different ways to be more consistent with habit building.

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  • Set daily reminders for yourself.
  • Write it down(if you don’t write it, you’ll forget it)
  • Practice it until it becomes second nature.
  • Reward yourself(make it your mission to complete a task and give yourself a small treat when it’s done)

3. Pick a habit that you like.

Anything it could be whatever habit that brings you joy, as long it’s a self improving one. People will often do things that they enjoy doing over and over again. For example, if you like to brush your teeth everyday chances are you can’t wait to get up every morning and brush until your gums bleed( don’t do that). Or if you enjoy doing cleaning the dishes everyday which is a good habit, you’ll find yourself to be the last one to get up from the dinner table when everybody is finish eating just to be the one to wash some filthy dishes.

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As long as it brings you joy and it’s helping you becoming more productive that’s all that matters. The more we replace bad habit with good ones the more we’ll get a lot more done, but what’s a bad habit?

  • Is is time consuming?
  • Do find yourself not having any control over it?
  • Does it affect your work/job?
  • Are you loosing more than your gaining?

Bad habits will leave us completely dried up, an entire day will just go by and nothing will ever get done. It’s very important to make these changes, if you are used to spending 2 hours on social media, cut it down to 1 and eventually 30 minutes. If you regularly oversleep, set a timer and practice waking up at that time. If you mostly eat junk food through out the day STOP IT! Replace that second bag of chips with an apple, and you don’t have to drink soda every single day, have a bottle of water once in a while. In doing so these small steps can replace the bad habits with good ones.

4. Change your crowd

It’s important to make some changes when it comes to the people we surround ourselves with. Sometimes we have to get a little uncomfortable and leave the crowd. Your company could have a big influence on your behavior, sure it’s cool to follow the crowd and do the things they’re doing, but how far is that going to take you especially when building good habits. Here’s 2 ways to not give into crowd pleasing

  • Get into the habit of saying no
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A. This one can be a little difficult at first but practice makes perfect, the more you say no the more assertive you become.

B. NO YOUR NOT A BAD PERSON! let your no’s be no and your yes’s be yes.

  • Speak up

A. Say what’s on your mind to boost your confidence as long as your not offending anyone.

B. It’s okay to have an opinion, don’t worry about everyone else judging you.

Making new friends can also replace bad habits with good ones. Explore, meet new people, who know’s you might have the same things in common. People with good habits usually stick together because everybody is building themselves up.